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The Option of Fostering a Child, or Many

In Writing (all kinds) on October 18, 2017 at 7:02 PM

According to the Canadian Census of 2011, there are 47,885 children who are in foster care in Canada. Only 0.5 percent of this number are children who are under the age of 14. Indigenous children make up 50 percent of children who are in foster care.

While growing up, I heard some children that I knew who were in foster care state to me plainly and simply that they truly believed that the only reason why their foster parents were taking care of them is that of the money. Could this be true?

The average salary for a foster parent in Canada is $42,541. Highly experienced foster parents even make as much as $60,000 per year. Mind you, all of this income is tax-free. In the United States, salaries for foster parents are dramatically less at about $20 to $25 per day on average.

However, if you look at the lives of most foster parents, the money that they receive does not equate the average expense to care for a child to levels above decency is at least $12,825 per child up until the age of 18. This does not also account for the tax benefits that can be received for taking care of a child, where sometimes the tax benefits themselves can pay for the child in and of itself.

So, honestly, yes, there probably are a lot of parents and guardians who foster parent because of the money. However, if you put your heat, mind, and soul into it there is a whole lot more than monetary rewards to receive by giving a child an opportunity for a better life.

Despite these facts, a 2016 article in the Toronto Star states that the level of foster care for children that need foster parents, particularly black children, is reaching a crisis point.

So, I will ask the question again. Could it really be true that the only reason why foster parents foster is that of the money? Or, do they want to make a difference?

Sympathies from Donna Magazine to Gord Downie of the Tragically Hip and His Family

In Writing (all kinds) on October 18, 2017 at 9:05 AM

Deepest sympathies. Gord Downie brought so much joy and elevated the level of Canadian music to international acclaim. May he rest in peace.

Belief #2. I cultivate fond memories and let the bad ones wither (or better yet see the humor in them)

In Writing (all kinds) on October 18, 2017 at 3:00 AM

People tend to assume their memories just happen. Some default program just creates them. Actually, you create your memories every time you think of them. You pull up some information and construct the picture and words. If you rehearse the memory often enough, the memory will get burned in. With post traumatic stress disorder the events are so traumatic the memory gets burned in. Otherwise, you are the artist.

Belle Boone Beard’s research with centenarians found that they related twice as many positive memories as negative memories. It wasn’t that they had an easy life. They lived through the Great Depression, two World Wars, and most of the time did not have much money. She found that even when their lives had a lot of tragedy, they often focused on the positive, such as how kind people were to them. She observed, “In general centenarians can recall so many more pleasant memories that I wonder whether they may deliberately have repressed unhappy memories.”

Cultivating memories is like gardening. You need to nourish the good memories by telling the stories again and again with great enthusiasm and vivid details. Eventually, you will get so good at telling the stories that people will ask to hear them again and again.

You can choose to minimize and weed out the bad memories. People say “someday you’ll laugh about this.” Why wait? Most humor is based on painful events. Seeing the humor can take the sting out. Keeping the pain to yourself allows it to fester. When you share it with someone, it is much easier to get perspective and to see the humor. And humor makes for great stories.

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